There is no middle ground, one is either appreciating or depreciating. The important thing is to know where you are heading and the route you are taking; the barriers you might encounter and the way through.
It’s not just OK to seek input from others but appropriate. Why would one not take the chance to add perception and experience into the mix when it is as important as one’s life! So long as there is a plan, changes can be made – not in writing, no plan. Plan it, do it! Only one life, get it right!