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MEDIATION is about bringing people together without emotion, realising that there are different opinions, different needs, maybe even different values. MEDIATION is about all parties keeping ownership of the situation, not handing it over to others who have much more on their mind and maybe even different motivations – maybe conflicts, maybe objectives.

Everyone has a place to play in mediation – lawyers and even accountants to name two ‘professions’ can be useful as ‘servant’s to the process – not initially as drivers.

The mediator needs to have street smarts as well as extensive experience, not necessarily certificates that indicate that they are using someone else’s thinking – or have paid money to try and understand what someone else has sold as a great methodology. The process is not king, the ability to listen, to ask questions, to keep emotions under control, to support rather than be the solution. Obviously, the process has to have some form, there needs to be the ability to arrive at a mutually acceptable conclusion BUT, that conclusion isn’t two lawyers talking to each other, the use of legal precedents – that is a certainty – who really cares what lawyers and courts decided, sometimes years and years ago! Life has moved on, the global financial crash and now COVID! Life has moved on, we need to make sure we are contemporary with today!

Costs – We charge by the hour although we give our time free, the first appointment. Let’s see if we like each other; let’s see where our heads are – are you ‘Ridgy Didge’ – genuine, authentic, honest, true, the real thing about wanting to find a remedy, a solution? All costs are agreed upon upfront, as are objectives.

What now – Time is always of the essence – time lost is never regained, attitudes solidify, words are said, actions are undertaken that make a mediation that much more difficult. Given that you are in a situation, avoiding it, defending it, denying it, procrastinating – all these things just add wood to the fire!

So, give me a call, 04007 827173 – set up a time to meet and let’s talk and listen and think – no obligation, no charge – we will respond to that meeting with a bullet point way forward, as somewhere to start from – that is that advice is not concrete, we need to agree through conversation, what you want and what you are prepared to go through.

MEDIATION

  • Family – this could be as small as where to go on holiday – seriously, many a holiday has been spoilt because one didn’t want that destination/time/standard …….
    – this could be about selling the house or remodelling/renovating – this can lead to amongst other things, procrastination, total inaction and that can lead to resentment; be the start of a ‘cancer that eats away at a relationship
    – this could be about developing a Last Will & Testament / Power of Attorney – who, how, when, why, what etc – a mine-field at the time of inception, too often / almost most often, even more so at time of death!
    education for the children Рvery often partners have different personal experiences; one wanting what they had against what their partner has can again, be the catalyst that not only eats away at a relationship but ends up in squabbles and poor family experience
    employment. Should it be employment or self-employment, part-time or full time, franchise or …..
    – MONEY – mmmm this is certainly a foundation for eats away at a relationshipWhen all these decisions are considered, too often the coming to a decision brings with it negative energy, lack of equal value and just resentment – this need not be the way – being part of a mediation teaches skills that can then be brought into the family and used without external help

     

  • Commercial – this could be about working with a landlord, with an employer about your worth for consideration on career opportunities, about working through misunderstandings that can be seen as sexist, discrimination, bullying – all these emotive and important issues that too often are approached emotionally! Too often people taking positions relative to assumptions, prejudice, bias; any number of non-factual indicators that colour useful progress in sorting out matters.

    So, give me a call
    , Rex Buckingham – 04007 827173 – set up a time to meet and let’s talk and listen and think – no obligation, no charge – we will respond to that meeting with a bullet point way forward, as somewhere to start from – that is that advice is not concrete, we need to agree through conversation, what you want and what you are prepared to go through.
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